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The Other Side Of The Lens

4th April 2017

One thing that has grown as I’ve grown as a Mama is my love for photography and capturing my little ones’ every day moments. We’ve always been a family that have captured memories on film. My Mam’s loft is full of dog eared boxes filled with photos of years gone by. I think maybe half of my memories actually stem from sitting pouring over these pictures rather than memories from the actual moment but I’m always so glad we have them to cherish. I also have hard drive upon hard drive filled with thousands of images I’ve captured over the last four and half years, but there’s something distinctly lacking in these photos – me!

Looking back through out old family albums and seeing my Granny, much younger than me, sporting the most amazing jet black hair and brows to rival the 2017 insta-brow, raising my auntie and uncle and then in her early 30’s raising my mam and her twin brother. I examine her features – how did she cope? Was she exhausted? The world was such a different place back then and to have the tiniest insight into her daily life is just so amazing. You reach a point in life when you realise that your parents and grandparent’s were once young people, not just your care-givers. These photographs are a way of connecting with these real life people and realising just exactly who they might have been, even though you may not have been present to witness it first hand.

I read something online recently that really got me thinking. How many photos do I actually have with my babies? I’m always snapping away on the other side of the lens. I quickly imagined Nora and Woody trying to show their babies photographs of their Granny and sifting through hundreds of photos only to find the odd one of me. And although I’m always present for every special occasion, outing and every day ordinary moment there is no real record of me being there. Will they wonder where I was all of those times? I’m forever worrying about looking a whole lot less-than-perfect or about how many extra pounds the camera is going to add, so behind the camera is a perfect hiding spot for me. But I must remember, when my babies are grown up they’re not going to point out my double chin or complain about the fact my make up isn’t totally on point. They’ll see their Mama and look at me in fascination the way I look at old photos of my Mam and her Mam before that.

So Mama’s – forget your unfounded self consciousness. Hand over the camera to your other half and get yourself in the frame. It doesn’t at all matter if you’re not camera ready, just be present. For these pictures are the legacy we leave behind for generations to come.

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  • Rishi Malar 4th July 2017 at 10:37 am

    I LOVE the pictures! So beautiful they are! And your point about missing ourself in the pictures is so true! Happens to me a lot and I realised it very recently! Since then, though I take a lot of pictures of the girls, we go for selfies or ask someone near us for help and make sure we leave the place with at least a few family pictures (regardless of whatever be the expressions!)

    • Jess 7th July 2017 at 12:17 pm

      It’s difficult when you are the designated picture taker. Asking passers by for a quick snap is a great idea though! Thanks for your lovely comment xx

  • Laura - Dear Bear and Beany 4th July 2017 at 2:05 pm

    These are just gorgeous photos. I completely agree and I was definitely guilty this, but over the last few months I’ve been making an effort to come out from behind the camera and being in the moment too x

    • Jess 7th July 2017 at 12:16 pm

      I think its definitely something all of Mama’s are guilty of! You will have so many lovely pictures to treasure now! xx

  • steph c 5th July 2017 at 12:54 pm

    Beautiful photos. I’ve recently been looking back at old family photos and need to make sure me and my mum take some pictures together as wee don’t have any recent ones at all x

    • Jess 7th July 2017 at 12:14 pm

      Thank you! Make sure you and your Mum get some lovely snaps over the summer! xx

  • Nadia 5th July 2017 at 7:47 pm

    I completely agree with this sentiment. Wonderful photos. x

    • Jess 7th July 2017 at 12:13 pm

      Thanks for the lovely comment :) xx

  • Natalie Dickinson 6th July 2017 at 2:09 pm

    Do you know I’ve been thinking similar lately and I wondered if I should book some sort of shoot with a photographer as I never have good photos of myself or any with my son… you’ve inspired me to do something about it!

    • Jess 7th July 2017 at 12:11 pm

      Honestly, do it! You won’t regret it – something to treasure for forever xx

  • Surrey mama 9th July 2017 at 11:46 am

    What beautiful pictures and I totally agree being in front of the camera is so important! My girls already love looking at pictures of
    The four of us

    • Jess 11th July 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Thanks so much! It’s nice to have memories to look back on x

  • Sonia 9th July 2017 at 8:59 pm

    These are such beautiful photos! I started getting in pictures more a few years ago and I love all the memories we have made x

    • Jess 11th July 2017 at 9:09 pm

      Thanks so much!

  • Nicole - thelittlestdarlings 10th July 2017 at 7:20 pm

    Okay Jess! You have absolutely got yourself a new follower and reader. What utterly stunning images and a lovely blog post to go with it. I need to start getting in front of the camera more but I want to lose weight first.

    • Jess 11th July 2017 at 9:14 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, that’s so lovely of you! I know what you mean, I always think i’ll do this more once I lose weight but our kids don’t see us that way, they just see the lovely moments we manage to capture xx

  • Joanna 14th July 2017 at 12:51 pm

    This is a very interesting perspective and I never thought about it before. I don’t like to be in front of the camera myself, I feel I am not photogenic but you are right, when my children will look back to the photo albums of my youth they wont be able to see much. I should stay in front of the camera more often as well.

  • Michelle Bradbury 14th July 2017 at 1:53 pm

    This is me all over. Thousands of pictures taken by me, but rarely if ever am I found in them. Even my own wedding had a slither of discomfort knowing I’d have pictures taken of me and everyone looking at me. But, you are completely right, a memory is not complete if I am not in it!

  • Eva Luna 15th July 2017 at 11:36 am

    The most beautiful photo taken of someone is the candid one. You really are capturing a moment in your life, a feeling that mattered. So yes, get yourself in those photos and stop missing precious moments 😉

  • DASH | MODE LILY ☀️ 28th October 2017 at 4:37 pm

    It’s just a beautiful post, I love to go through my grandma’s photos and I used to love it when she was telling me stories from her childhood. This made me realise that apart from my blog pictures I’m not in any other from our trips. Upps